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Favoritism linked to drug use in 'disengaged' families

 

September 12, 2014

Brigham Young University

In families, the perception that parents have a favorite is linked with the less-favored children being twice as likely to use alcohol, cigarettes or drugs. For parents worrying about keeping score and managing perceptions of fairness, one expert has some very simple advice. "Show your love to your kids at a greater extent than you currently are. As simple as it sounds, more warmth and less conflict is probably the best answer."


Professor Alex Jensen with his two daughters.

Before you revive the debate about which sibling in your family is the favorite, you'll want to know what the latest research shows.

Brigham Young University professor Alex Jensen analyzed 282 families with teenage siblings for a study that appears in the Journal of Family Psychology. Favoritism in parenting is a complex topic for sure, but here are some important take-aways.

Does it really matter?

Yes, at least for some families. Jensen looked at perceived preferential treatment in different types of family dynamics. For families that aren't very close to each other -- so-called "disengaged" families -- favoritism was strongly associated with alcohol, cigarette and drug use by the less-favored children.

In these disengaged families, children who view themselves as slightly less favored were almost twice as likely to use alcohol, cigarettes or drugs. If the preferential treatment was perceived to be dramatic, the less favored child was 3.5 times more likely to use any of these substances.

In other words, favoritism appears to be the most problematic when love and support are generally scarce.

"With favoritism in disengaged families, it wasn't just that they were more likely to use any substances, it also escalated," Jensen said. "If they were already smoking then they were more likely to drink also. Or if they were smoking and drinking, they were more likely to also use drugs."

How can you tell who is the favorite?

When you ask people which sibling gets preferential treatment, their perception often doesn't match reality. But that's where things get tricky: Perceptions matter more.

"It's not just how you treat them differently, but how your kids perceive it," Jensen said. "Even in the case where the parents treated them differently, those actual differences weren't linked to substance use -- it was the perception."

What should parents do?

For parents worrying about keeping score and managing perceptions of fairness, Jensen has some very simple advice.

"Show your love to your kids at a greater extent than you currently are," Jensen said. "As simple as it sounds, more warmth and less conflict is probably the best answer."

That's based on what they saw in the data -- the link between substance use and favoritism didn't exist among families that take a strong interest in each other.

Jensen also recommends that parents look for unique things that each of their children are trying to build into their identity.

"Every kid as they get older develops their own interests and start to have their own identity," Jensen said. "If you value that and respect that, and as a parent support what they see as their identity, that would help them feel loved."

 

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The above story is based on materials provided by Brigham Young University. Note: Materials may be edited for content and length.


Journal Reference:

  1. Alexander C. Jensen, Shawn D. Whiteman. Parents’ differential treatment and adolescents’ delinquent behaviors: Direct and indirect effects of difference-score and perception-based measures.. Journal of Family Psychology, 2014; 28 (4): 549 DOI: 10.1037/a0036888

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